Guys, Start Sending Online Dating Messages That Get Responses Every Time

Of all the parts that make up the typical online dating site and all the processes that it takes to go from profile creation to an actual real-life date at an offline location, sending the very first online dating message is - by far - the aspect that most guys completely screw up the most.  Most guys send messages that consist of, “Hey,” and “What’s up?” Then there’s the most intriguing message of all, “I want to [Insert Dirty Word] you.” While those are compelling messages, they’re not going to stand apart amidst all the other messages in the typical woman’s inbox. Most women merely have to make a profile to have their inbox fill up with messages from willing men. For men, it’s not that easy. That is why, as a man, you need to learn the tricks of the trade for messaging women when you want more attention and more responses from every hot number you see.

If You Want These Tips to Work

Before you set off on a conquest to see how many phone numbers you can snag, and how many offline dates you can schedule, make the following true if you want these tips to work.

1. You have spent time choosing online dating photos that show you in your best light.

2. You have chosen a dating headline that intrigues and possibly makes her laugh.

3. You have written your online dating profile so that it sells your best aspects and leaves the concept of your ideal woman wide open.

Put These Dating Message Tips to Use the Moment Her Profile Catches Your Eye

1. Gather Intel and Launch and Offensive - Read her profile and, using that information, try to come up with a question that will get her talking about herself. You might ask about one of her hobbies, or about her job. Ask relevant questions and keep them coming. The goal is to get a back-and-forth communication started. When you have her on the hook, that's when you'll want to ask for the phone number right away.

2. Snipe her with an IM – This form of communication, which most online dating sites offer, is far superior to email, because it requires her to focus her attention solely on you. Sure, she may be speaking to other guys simultaneously via instant message, but that’s why you need to use the following tip to get her focused completely on you.

First, ask her questions about herself using information that you learned by reading her profile. Try to dig deep and ask questions that most people might not think about offhand. Ask questions that force her to think, but keep things light. If she begins taking too long to answer your IMs, such as more than a few minutes, call her on spending time with other guys. Act jealous, but just pretend. Let her know you’re kidding. Get her laughing. Then, ask for the number.

3. Riddles and/or Jokes – Find a good riddle or joke and send the first part as the subject line. This is a great way to stand out and it also has the added benefit of making her laugh, which will practically make you a shoo-in for a return response. As soon as you release the answer to the riddle or the punch-line, ask her questions about her profile, like above, and then ask for the number.

A Quick Warning About Using Humor

Humor is like a joker card that you can play when you might otherwise have nothing in common with a woman. Humor trumps all, even looks and money. There are statistics on that fact. Look them up. The point is, humor works, but it can also backfire. The woman may have delicate sensitivities and you might offend her. If that happens, just move on. There are plenty of other women - and online dating sites - that you can pursue.

These three tips, as long as you’ve followed the three tips above those, will help you get more return responses and offline dates, guaranteed. What happens when you get the number? That’s for next time.