Men Who Want Online Dating Success Should Ask for the Phone Number Quickly

Many men mistakenly think that the goal of online dating is to get a woman to message you back or to get into a back-and-forth communication with one or more women. Sure, that’s the immediate goal, but it’s not the ultimate goal. The ultimate goal for all men should be to go from online dating to a real actual offline date rather quickly; and the best way to do that is to ask for the phone number as soon as possible.

Be the Ultimate Online Date to Increase Your Chances of Dating Offline

First, let’s break down what most women are looking for when they sign up with one or more online dating sites. Most women, like most users of online dating sites, have high hopes when they first sign up. Then they go through the pool of available dates and soon realize that they’re going to have to lower their standards a little bit. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s good. It means that they will be more open to accepting many guys as potential dates as opposed to just one or two. This happens to most women, according to studies and online posts made by women who have gone through this exact phenomenon.

This leads most women, after failing to find their knight in shining armor – and let’s face it, that man just does not exist – and after they’ve gone through the initial disappointment phase, to begin looking for a man, any man, who exhibits the following characteristics.

- Ambitious or at least employed.

      - Drives his own car
      - Fun to be around.
- Not a shut-in and has a social life.

You can exhibit the above characteristics using your profile and the online dating photos that you choose to show off to potential dates. Even if you are a shut-in with no friends and even if you drive your parents’ car everywhere you go, at least make her think that you exhibit the above characteristics. It can all come out during the first date, which by that time, she’ll most likely be willing to overlook your downsides, since she’ll already be emotionally invested.

That Being Said – Always Ask for the Phone Number Early On

If you have done well with your profile, your photos and your online dating messaging tactics, you will already have her on the hook. All you have to do is ask for the phone number. Tell her that you want to take her out, and you might even mention a place that you have in mind. Be different, be fun and ask for the number right away if you want more online dating success.

What do you do after she gives you the number? You call her up and continue the conversation you were having online, but only briefly. The idea, when you finally do call her, is to schedule the date quickly. Or keep talking if you find that there’s rapport. Feel her out. If you feel yourself slipping, schedule the date and end the call. If things are going well, keep her on the hook. The more you talk, the more of an emotional connection will form and that’s when you’ll have her just where you want her.

Next time, we will cover what to do when you meet her in person to make her fall for you every time.